Day 6: Invoke Self-Kindness

Day 6: Invoke Self-Kindness

Day 6 

Invoke Self-Kindness 

Pause 

breathe in for a count of... 

hold for a count of ... 

breathe out for a count of ... 

hold for a count of... 

In my early twenties I was dating a boy whose mother needed to have an operation. When we went to her home to drive her to the hospital, she was vacuuming. At the time, I could not fathom why she chose that moment to clean. Now as an adult, I think she might have been nervous and used cleaning as a coping mechanism, or she might have wanted to pay forward a kindness to herself.  

I try to complete tasks that will help my future self, especially if I will be engaging in an anxiety producing activity.  

  1. I make my bed with clean sheets before we leave for a trip. 
  2. I prep my coffee at night for the next morning. 
  3. I clean the kitchen at night, so I wake up seeing clear surfaces. 
  4. I stock the refrigerator with basics before a trip. 
  5. I keep items I might need accessible in my car: hair accessories, underwear, wipes, bandages, essential oils, pain relief pills, antacids, mints. 
  6. I encourage the other members of our household to contain clutter. 
  7. I ask what each person in our family has planned for the day, so I am not surprised or rushed. 
  8. I explain in a group text my expectations to my family; for example, when I get home from the store please help me unload the car and put away the groceries. 

I have many negative phrases I replay in my mind. When I say something negative to myself, I have a list of phrases I try to counter with. 

  1. I am joyful 
  2. I am generous 
  3. I am worthy 
  4. I am loved 
  5. I am prolific 
  6. I am creative 
  7. I am compassionate 
  8. I am playful 

I also like to imagine compliments: 

  1. You are good at Mothering 
  2. You are important to the Universe 
  3. You have something to offer 
  4. You are creative 
  5. You are talented 
  6. You are a good friend 
  7. You have nice hair 
  8. You are interesting 

 

 How do you invoke self-kindness? 

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