Honor Your Sacred Alone Time
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Occasionally during the week, I will not have any other obligations, everyone will be at school or work and I will have the house to myself. Back in my Sacred Space, I will sip on water infused with fruit and herbs, light a candle, anoint myself with oil, burn sage, Pause, and relish the moment. Sacred Alone Time (SAT) is when and how I foster the most intimacy in my life. I know it can be a challenge to procure this Sacred Alone Time, especially as a student, parent, or someone with heavy job demands, but it is so worth it.
During my Sacred Alone Time, I journal, script, and nurture my relationship with Divine Wisdom I receive through Tarot and express through collage. When my children are home all day, it is much more precarious for me to partake in Sacred Alone Time. My family is aware of what happens to me if I am not able to Pause alone. One strategy that I employ is to wake up extra, extra early, and then take a nap during the day while our older children occupy our youngest. I did not do this for myself in the past and was not able to sustain Steady Joy in my life because of it. Sacred Alone Time takes some planning, but it trumps everything else!
In the early 1990's I began using the mantra Om Mani Padme Hum that I had read about in a book. I would recite the words when I Paused or when I needed to clear my head. In 2006 I discovered the metaphysical teachers Abraham Hicks and was inspired to create my current mantra:
I am grounded into the Heart of Gaia; I am tethered to the Soul of the Sky.
I view Gaia as the physical embodiment of Mother Nature represented by the Earth. I love the vision of me being held by Source; I am both grounded and tethered. My mantra is very comforting to me. I say it often throughout the day; while I am praying, Pausing, driving, cleaning, cooking, and even in the shower. It helps bring me back to the present moment.
There are many prayers I rotate through in the morning and during my Sacred Alone Time.
One on high rotation is a prayer from A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson:
I give this day to you, the fruit of my labor and the desires of my heart. In your hands I place all questions, on your shoulders I place all burdens. I pray for my brothers and sisters, and for myself. May we return to love. May our minds be healed. May we all be blessed. May we find our way home from pain to peace, from fear to love, from hell to heaven. For thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory, forever and forever. Amen.
St. Francis has always been a favorite of mine; even as a child I recall reciting his prayer. In 2019 our family was fortunate to visit Italy and visit the town of Assisi.
Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace
Where there is hatred, let me sow love
Where there is injury, pardon
Where there is doubt, faith
Where there is despair, hope
Where there is darkness, light
And where there is sadness, joy
O Divine Master, grant that I may
Not so much seek to be consoled as to console
To be understood, as to understand
To be loved, as to love
For it is in giving that we receive
And it's in pardoning that we are pardoned
And it's in dying that we are born to Eternal Life
One of my most favorite ways to enjoy my SAT is to have an art picnic. I gather all my supplies and carve out a place for myself outside. Sometimes my youngest is present. Fortunately, he loves creating just as much as I do. I always host an art picnic for myself on my birthday week, even if we are on vacation!
When my two oldest were toddlers and blogging was a new form of connection, I met a wonderful group of diverse women through a blogger leading an online book club. Although it has been about fifteen years since I was in that group, I remember the author encouraged her readers to go on a weekly date with themselves. I recall feeling incredibly angry and defensive at this suggestion. My husband worked a ton of hours and we did not have the money to hire someone to watch our children. My in-laws did live close by, but I felt uncomfortable asking my very community-active Mother-in-law to watch our children for me to do something independently. In hindsight, I wish I would have invested in myself more and asked for help. I also wish I would have accepted help more often when it was offered.
If you are challenged with carving out your Sacred Alone Time, I encourage you to ask, ask for what you need (and deserve!), ask for advice, ask for help, just ask!
Sacred Alone Time ideas:
- Write a letter to yourself, journal.
- Take a nature walk at the beach, wildlife sanctuary, garden, or forest.
- Browse in a bookstore.
- Window shop down a main street.
- Go to any museum.
- Cloud watch, from a hammock is even better!
- Go thrifting, antiquing.
- Have a car picnic; I love to sit in my car at the beach when the lot is empty.
When, where, and how do you honor your Sacred Alone Time?
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